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Saturday, August 2, 2008


I am someone who doesn’t really like many years of dating. Like those 7, 8 years then get married… And I always believe that there is no end to comparison. So I settled down & got married to my dearest hubby when we entered into our 3 years of dating in September 2003. We held our solemnization at Raffles Town Club & invited our relatives & good friends for a lunch buffet. It was a memorable day for me, especially because it was what I wanted!

December 2003 came a big & shocking news for me! I was pregnant... just 3 months after my ROM. Oh gosh! My plans were all jeopardized. I intended for a customary marriage a year later in end 2004 & probably a baby in 2005. My hubby was shocked & lost too! We didn’t have any savings & we were like just married & didn’t plan for anything like this. He suggested abortion but I insisted I wanted the baby.

It really hurts when my hubby suggested abortion. He’s someone who is fearful of commitments. He’s someone who couldn’t work without plans. He’s someone who couldn’t be left unprepared. My personality differs from my hubby. He is very soft-spoken, conservative, while I am outspoken & aggressive. All because I believe I can if I truly wanted it. It really doesn’t matter to me much if he’s broke, or if he’s unprepared. I managed to “buy” him over & we carried on with my pregnancy.

I had very loving aunties & granny. They would occasionally cooked soups for me. My dad bought bird nest for me too! Although my times of drinking tonics can be counted with my 2 hands, I really appreciated what they have done me.

Although I didn’t have much tonics during pregnancy, I took really good care of myself. Drank milk for pregnancy women every morning & night… drank only soya bean when lunching outside. No soft drinks & cold drinks allowed. Obediently took my supplements prescribed by my gynae. Everything went on smoothly… On 03rd June 2004, I had slight contractions at around 5-6am. I couldn’t sleep well… Feeling cold at times & feeling hot at other... It indeed disturbed my sleep. I remembered clearly that I woke up & walked to the fridge to grab a cup of cold water... The contractions went on for the whole day... but the frequency was slow.

At 10am in the morning, I called Patsy to ask on her the symptoms of birth but sad to say she didn’t experience it before as her 3 births were caesarians. I tried calling my cousin who just gave birth in January, but couldn’t reach her. I called up my gynae & told him of my situation & was asked to see him the next morning, as I had no spotting & my water bag did not burst.

The contraction came more frequently & it’s getting more & more unbearable. I called up Mount A & checked on the details of admission. If I were to admit after 11pm, it would be considered as the next day admission. Given that waiting at home is better off waiting in the labour ward, I continued to tolerate. Eventually, I admitted hospital at around 10.30pm.

When I was in the labour room... I remembered the mid-wives told me that if I delayed further... my hubby would be delivering for me! The mid-wives inserted something into my anus so that I could clear my bowels. The contractions are terrible... My lower back, somewhere to slightly below my waist felt so 酸. I was hoping that there is an elephant to step on my back... Gynae arrived & broke my water bag... My contractions were unbearable that I didn’t feel a thing when my gynae burst my water bag. All I felt was just a pool of warm water under my buttocks. When I questioned my gynae then I was told that he burst my water bag.

The contractions kept coming like every 5 mins then every 3 mins then every 1 min...I sniffed the gas mask, which said to able to relieve the pain. But I felt that it was absolutely useless… It’s just some form of psychological relief... My hubby saw me in terrible pain & persuaded me for the epidural... I wanted a total natural birth & hence of coz’ no jabs! I’m already struggling to fight the pain... & yet on the other hand my hubby kept luring me 2 the jab… I shouted at him… "Stop asking me to take the jab!"

While waiting for my cervix to dilate, I just grabbed whatever I could reach for. Oh… do remember to inform your future hubbies not to wear any ring or watch on their fingers & hands. :p I hurt my hubby fingers while I was grabbing his hand so hard when I’m experiencing the terrible contractions. At around 2am, my cervix finally dilated to 8cm… My gynae then cut another 2cm to make it 10cm... To be frank, I didn’t even realize that my gynae was cutting me at that moment! The contractions were far too painful that noting else can be worse off than that... I started pushing at around 2.10am… The pushing was a relief to me... Only push when the contraction comes… it kind of a relief to the pain at my back...

My gynae told me that a strand of my baby's hair is sticking out after my 1st push... My hubby saw it too! My gynae threatened to use forceps after my 2nd push… I wanted total natural & hence was very determined to get it out at my 3rd push... Finally… my hard work paid off! I could feel that my baby's body was wiggling inside my tummy out of my cervix... The experience is wonderful! I only knew that it was a miracle! My tears rolled down my cheeks the moment when the mid-wife placed the baby on my body. The feeling was indescribable!

The stitching & others went on... I felt nothing coz’ I’m just too exhausted after all the contractions & pushing. Or probably it’s because my cervix is too 麻! All I felt was something pulling... The pulling of thread!

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